Date A Girl Who Reads

A Girl You Should Date



Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.


Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.


She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.


Buy her another cup of coffee.


Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.


It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.


Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.


Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.


Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.


If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.


You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.


You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.


Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.


Or better yet, date a girl who writes.


– Rosemarie Urquico, nonamerah.wordpress.com, October 2011

This is such a stunning essay, and I wanted to pass it along.

Capricorn Horoscope - 2012 New Years Edition

I've never been one to believe in horoscopes. For starters, they are always so vague that they could really apply to anyone, and also it seems like once you read them they instantly must happen and people force them to happen to matter what (so, all over the world there are 50,000 people who have read the same horoscope that told them to "jump off of a bridge" and they did...).


I kid, I know horoscopes don't really work like that - they are interpretive and don't give specific things that will happen. And like I said, for me that is just to vague.


But, there are the few times when I like to read them - mostly at the start of the New Year when everything is fresh and anything is possible. It's always that moment of "hm...where will I be this time next year?" that is so intriguing.


The website that I read it off of this year divides up the Capricorn sign into three decans: 1st decan born Dec 22 to 31, 2nd decan born Jan 1 to 10, 3rd decan born Jan 11 to 19. I would fall into the 1st decan with my birthday on December 27th. I liked this idea because it seemed to be a little bit more specific than just a general "Capricorn horoscope."


Capricorn decan 1 is in for a pretty full on 2012 because you guys are going through a very intense and life-changing period thanks to the biggest planetary alignment in over a generation. The Uranus Pluto square is directly affecting you because Pluto is in the early degrees of Capricorn, and Uranus is squaring your decan all of 2012. Those of you born from December 22 to 26 are now recovering from the Pluto conjunction over the last couple of years, but those born December 27 to 31 are facing the full force in 2012. All of you really should read my post on Pluto conjunct Sun transit and there are comments from other Capricorns describing how they are dealing with this extremely powerful energy, which can lead to deep and lasting change in your life direction. It can be very empowering and you will be driven, almost compulsively, to reform your life and improve your conditions, striving to reach your goals. The energy of Pluto is relentless and intense, giving you a powerful will to succeed.



So on top of this life transforming Pluto transit, you all have to contend with some radical and sometimes stressful changes because of a square from erratic Uranus. This is likely to mean that 2012 will bring the unexpected, a few surprises which increase the excitement levels but also mean that it may be difficult to find stability at work or at home and with your relationships. You may feel the energy of this Uranus square Sun transit as a desire to break away from restriction or boredom in your life, or it may come in the form of confrontation with others, or just unexpected events. The key for 2012 is to remain flexible an accept change in your life, take advantage of new opportunities because this really is a special time and you could totally transform your life for the better. From January to late March, luck is on your side with Jupiter trine Sun


For January 2012:

Decan 1 Capricorn has a busy start to 2012 with Mercury passing through your decan from January 8 to 15. Mental alertness and quick thinking come naturally and this helps you make the most of the increase in activity, meetings, correspondence and trips around town. You can express yourself with more confidence and ease, and better explain your ideas and plans. This is an ideal time for convincing others, buying and selling, and signing contracts. Venus sextile your decan from January 14 to 22 should bring more opportunities for love and money. You will be feeling more affectionate and can expect warm reactions from friends and partner. A good time for socializing or staying in with someone special. This would be a good month to get out and about making new friends or business contacts.

Doesn't sound like to bad of a New Year to me. :-)

Happy Valentine's Day!!

I just wanted to wish all of my readers a very Happy Valentine's Day. Whether you have a Valentine, or are like me and lacking one, I hope you all take some time out to spread the love! I just wanted to share with ya'll some of my favorite quotes. Enjoy!

1. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."

2. "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return."

3. "The circus is a lot like love...if it's a good one, if it's truly a good one... it's beautiful and terrifying and magical... All at the same time"

4. “If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.”

5. "The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.”

6. “I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”

7. "After awhile you just want to be with the one that makes you laugh."

8. “Love is like an earthquake-unpredictable, a little scary, but when the hard part is over you realize how lucky you truly are.”

9. "Love is not a feeling, it's an ability."

10. "It doesn't matter if the guy is perfect or the girl is perfect, as long as they are perfect for each other."

"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

Folks, there really must be something in the air….and for this lady right here, it is most definitely NOT love. Just wanted to clear that up from the beginning. There is no love to be seen within like a million mile radius around me. And I’m totally cool with that.


I don’t know what it is. I woke up yesterday and was just happy. Yes, I’m typically a happy person (for the most part), but this was a different kind of happy. The kind of happy that you only feel when you realize and fully understand that everything is going to be okay. The kind of happy where you are completely content with everything in your life right at this moment and cannot find a single reason to complain. Sure, you may not be where you thought you would be, but that’s okay.

I actually walked into work today a little before 10 o’clock this morning in an amazing mood…and surprisingly left the exact same way 12 hours later. And it’s weird. People notice. They notice when you spend the entire day happy and in a pleasant mood. I actually had a few people ask me what I was smoking and that they wanted some of whatever it was.

I don’t need the boy (boyfriend, fiancée, husband, sugar daddy, whatever), the white picket house thing, the 2.759 children, the gazillions of dollars, the absolutely perfect job that lets me balance said boyfriend/fiancée/husband/sugar daddy and 2.759 children with my desire to travel everywhere, see everything, do everything and skydive. There is a reason that none of that is a part of my life at this moment in time – I’m not ready for any of it and I am so glad for that. Someday, maybe? But today I'm just happy being who I am.

I mean, can you seriously imagine me with 2.759 children….awkward….

To all of my darling readers - I wish you the happiest of days tomorrow, and in everything you do!
 

"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”